Everything You Wanted to Know About EMOTIONAL MANIPULATORS and Were Too Embarrassed to Ask

 Everything You Wanted to Know About EMOTIONAL MANIPULATORS and Were Too Embarrassed to Ask

Introduction

“When someone blames you for your reaction to their toxic behavior but never brings into discussion the disrespect that triggered you”(guilt trip). In the story of fox and crow, fox used flattery in order to make crow drop its food, crow became elated on fox’s flattery and thus dropped its food and fox ate that food. Fox emotionally manipulated crow in order to take advantage of crow. Emotional manipulation can be described as when someone utilizes your emotions to get what they desire. It can be a girl talks to a boy in a sweet manner to do timepass (a kind of situationship) with that boy or a boy using his friend’s emotions in order to extract money from him.

These emotional manipulators do not care about your emotions in reality. When they came to know that you do not satisfy their needs anymore and you are of no use to these people, they will leave you and make you feel unwanted in their lives. You will feel bad about yourself and feel dejected. That’s why you should know how to finds traits of an emotional manipulator in a person so that you become cautioned from these people and prevent yourself from getting doomed. It is difficult as an emotional manipulator is highly skilled. They start with indirect manipulation and raise the level of manipulation with time, this is so slow that it becomes difficult for you to realize that it’s occuring. Luckily, an emotional manipulator is easy in sufficient manner to be spotted if you possess knowledge of what to observe.

This blogpost will help you in finding traits of an emotional manipulator in a person. By reading this blogpost, you will become familiar with characteristics of an emotional manipulator and save yourself from emotional damage.

What is meant by emotional manipulation?

Emotional manipulation is a type of psychological manipulation in which a person tries to control other person’s emotions in order to take advantage of that other person. When someone else has a desire to have control over your journey which cannot be done physically, they might use the methods of emotional manipulation.

Emotional manipulators are found following toxic culture where tearing down someone is viewed as an intelligent act. These people do not use their intelligence in order to build others up. These people create a situation where you become too friendly with them so that these people can have the permit to disrespect you a lot.

In accordance with Kara Nassour who is a licensed professional counselor from Austin, Texas, due to trauma or adverse experiences which a person encounters during childhood, emotional manipulation can become habitual or second nature in that person.

Other reason for people becoming infected with manipulative behaviours according to Kara Nassour is because they were raised in households where manipulative behavoiur was in routine and they were unable to learn other ways to communicate.

Adverse effects of emotional manipulation

Emotional manipulation can shatter trust, create resentment, stress and fear leading to adverse effects on mental health, well-being and relationships.

Nassour notes that due to emotional manipulation, an environment of competition is created, where partners instead of finding solutions or doing compromises to solve the relationship challenges, get involved in trying to outsmart one another.

Emotional manipulation can even lead to conditions which are as follows:

1.low self-esteem

2.depression

3.anxiety

4.substance use

5.post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

How to detect emotional manipulation?

Emotional manipulation methods occurs in many forms which makes it elusive. Manipulators(emotional) will work secretively, seizing advantage of your trust, openness and kindness. They influence your emotions to turn your emotions to their advantage but does not benefit you. Observe patterns of these behaviours. These signs are:

1.       1.They ask you personal questions about your deepest fears, your insecurities, thus getting too close to you too soon. They skip a few steps.

2.       2.They treat you like you are the bestest. Due to this you start to trust these people to a greater extent.

3.        3.They insist they said something when they didn’t. They do this in a convincing manner that you start to question your own sanity, perceptions and experiences.

4.       4.They pretend to support you but when the time comes they act like your requests are unreasonable and invalid. They make you question your way of seeing reality and mold your perception according to their convenience.

5.       5.Whether you bring up something that is bothering you or not, they will arouse a feeling of guilt in you.

6.       6.To these people, it’s your fault that made them whatever they do or fail to do or get mad at you.

7.      7. If you do not take an action as specified by them, they will threaten to do something which will harm you.

Conclusion

Emotional manipulation is a serious form of abuse which is of emotional nature. Though it is hard to decode emotional manipulation but with the help of right support and skill, you can effectively heal from it. You are worthy of being respected and appreciated and liked.