Staying away from Builder burner personalities

                                                  Staying away from Builder burner personalities

Introduction

Once upon a time there was a boy named X who was studying pharmacy in ABC college as pharmacy was his passion. He cracked the competitive entrance exam of Pharmacy at undergraduate level and got selected. During the first year he performed well in exam and was said that he was brilliant student.

Turning point in X's life

When he entered second year, there is another admission of Suhana in lateral entry category. X's friend introduced Ms Z to X as his acquaintance. Initially , Z's and X's meeting was limited to hi and hello, but when X shared  his notes with Z to help Z in her sessional exams, the conversation between them deepened.

Start of X and Z's platonic love

X and Z helped each other. Due to this, X and Z developed platonic love for each other.  But the platonic love was in X's mind only, not in Z's mind.

What's in Z's mind?

In Z's mind there was hatred for boys(men). She was using X for her own benefits and ego massage.

Z used to bunk maximum of her classes and make X take notes for her. Z promised X that a professor in that college is known to her and she will also arrange notes for X when X needed the notes. Z made arrangement for X so that X learned useful life quotes.

X also helped Z and Z also helped X in 2nd year annual exam and thus both cleared 2nd year annual exam.

X and Z in 3rd year

X and Z both helped each other in studies. According to only X, the bond between X and Z became stronger day by day. One day X had to shift to other city as his father gets transferred to that city. Due to this X had to take 15 days leave. Z promised X to take notes for X and taught X useful life quotes. Then X, with no worries took 15 days holiday and got busy in adjusting himself to new city. After 15 days, When X came to college, Z made X understand notes and taught him useful life quotes. It took 7 days for X to understand and cover notes. In annual exam X secured 70% and Z secured 60% and thus passed 3rd year exam.

X and Z's relationship in 4th year

After X secured marks more than Z, Z started to have negative feelings about X. Her insecurity kicked in when X started flying. Z started resenting X. Z called X’s ambition selfish, and X’s focus neglect. X's standards became abuse to Z and his growth became threat to her.

Conclusion

Actually Z built the man(X) she was secretly jealous of- then started destroying him out of fear X will outgrow her. Z weaponized X’s success against X, and accused him of becoming the man she prayed for. She does not wanted him to be better-she wanted him to be dependent on her. Actually Z had characteristics of a builder-burner. Builder-burner should be avoided.

Always do friendship with a woman who not only feeds your potential, but also protects your peace and covers your back.